Sometimes, the difference between understanding and annoyance is a slowing down, a willingness to let the other "side" have their say. Even fathers can fail to see their points made by their children, no matter how well constructed and delivered. We blame the messenger when we might have grasped the thought in a calmer setting, at a less hectic time.
If a dad, who means well and typically heeds his children, can grow weary of a valid but seemingly shrill suggestion, can't we all?